“I’m sorry, but…”

“I forgive you, but…”

There is a world of fracturing and complexity in “but”.

Apologising and forgiveness are quite often given short shrift in the framing of contemporary Christianity. Forgive your abuser, your oppressor, your untrustworthy confidant, your betraying friend.

Because of the truncated timeline, we don’t feel the weight of it.

The loss.

The grief.

The change.

It’s okay to take it slow, when we realise that the alternative is to not really do it at all.