If the majority of your thoughts include the phrase “if only,” you need some better thoughts.
“If only” means you’re fixated on limitations, roadblocks and lack. The only one who can make your dream transcend that stuff is you.
Start by believing your creativity is stronger than the factors which impede it.
There are things you cannot change right now. There are things you will never be able to change. There are things you wish you could change that should not change, ever.
Sometimes — too often, perhaps — it feels like life is just putting in time.
- Working for the weekend.
- Working for the next vacation.
- It’s not about quantity time, but quality time, right?
We don’t want that feeling — great stories don’t have dead air. We have all this pressure to do stuff — great stuff! And time is an unpredictable and finite resource. So if not now, when?
All that and more.
The problem is that the urgency to act, to take bold steps, can lead us right down the garden path.
Is your “if only” about the change you want to make, or the best change you can make?
Is it just a means to another, better means? Or does it actually relate to the ends?
It’s very easy to let this “if only” routine take on a life of its own.
That’s a choice you can make. But you can make better choices, too.
- Identify the ends — what does success look like?
- What does each “if only” tell you about the ends?
- How can you circumvent it?
Be less concerned about the new and the next, and tune in to the present. What are you doing right now that’s feeding your dream, vision, passion, calling, etc. You don’t need more training. You don’t need more equipment. You don’t need less anxiety.
You don’t need anything more or less than starting. Right now.